Be the person you want your spouse to be:

  • pray
  • fear Allah
  • lower your gaze
  • don’t talk to the opposite sex
  • have sabr
  • be modest
  • maintain consistency
  • don’t backbite
  • stay away from arrogance
  • gain ilm
  • do not speak unnecessarily 
  • be humble
  • maintain proper adab
  • speak with knowledge
  • be just
  • know your obligations 
  • do everything for the sake of Allah